Licensed clinical social worker · 25 years
Ethical help for parents who don't trust the system.
With 25 years of experience, I help parents navigate mental health care with confidence, and I stand with clinicians who want to practice with integrity.
For parents
Navigate care with confidence.
Know what to ask, what to watch for, and when to push back.
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Therapists: practice real therapy, not affirmations.
Courses, supervision, and community for therapists who want to practice with clarity and integrity.
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Expert Witness
Expert witness testimony and legal consulting for gender-related cases.
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Years in practice
10
Years supervising clinicians
3
Documentaries
2
Books
What I stand for
Four convictions that shape every conversation.
Truthful Therapy
Good therapy isn't about handing someone a label or an ideology. It's about helping a person understand what's driving their choices, and behaviors, and build the skills to improve.
Equipped Parents
Parents are part of the care, not an obstacle to it. You don't have to accept an expert's answer just because they're the expert. Information beats fear every time.
Brave Professionals
Clinicians deserve a community that supports ethical, truthful, family-centered work.
Resilience over Fragility
Young people are capable. Good care builds capacity, it doesn't shrink the world to fit them.
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What makes a good therapist.
What to look for, red flags to watch for, and screening questions to ask. Free.
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Books
From the desk, to your shelf.
For parents and clinicians
A Practical Response to Gender Distress
A direct, non-ideological framework for families navigating a difficult moment.
A children's book
Froggy Girl
That's why I wrote Froggy Girl an honest and fun book for kids and the grown-ups reading them.
From the author
“Children deserve good stories and beautiful artwork that reflect truth and self-acceptance.”
See both booksLatest writing
On Substack: Pam the Truthful Therapist.
For parents
Open letter to parents
A direct, compassionate letter to parents who are worried, exhausted, and wondering if they are allowed to ask questions.
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Yes, parents should be involved
Why excluding parents from a child’s mental health care is not neutral, and why loving involvement is part of the solution.
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A therapist's advice to parents
Practical guidance for parents navigating therapy, diagnoses, and a system that sometimes stops listening.
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Does your kid really need therapy?
A clear-eyed look at when therapy helps, when it doesn’t, and how to tell the difference before the first appointment.
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How to get the most out of therapy
What to ask, what to expect, and how to partner with a therapist so the work actually serves your family.
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Start with the truth.
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